[Help] I need some help on an issue with my Gf(if u could call it that)

[xPreatorianx]

     Basically a guy convoed me on this chat client called IMVU. He knows my GF and was wondering if i knew her.. Told him i was going out with her and he said heh funny so am i and she says you are just her friend. So i talked to him for a little while and found out he was also going out with her. So we talked back and forth and then i got her into the convo. She confirmed that she "liked him" and said she "liked me." She also said she's got a girlfriend(which is a plus for me) and then said that she did not know how it ended up this way. Basically she was saying damn how did i get caught. So i told her that he convoed me and then we talked.

    He eventually said i wanna know the truth who do u want to be with? She said i dont know after what is going on, then said could i have you both. After a couple minutes of silence i said well i would not feel right with that and im sure neither would he. SO we talked and eventually said we are all gonna think things through before she makes her decision.

     What i want to know and need help on deciding is if i should try and fight for the person i love, or if i should just say lets just be friends and leave it at that. I love her and plan on spending half of my summer with her down in Australia and trying to bring her back. But now i dont know if that is a good idea as she may not want it to be that way. I need some help people share your thoughts Please!

[[Asian-Jesus]]

     Basically a guy convoed me on this chat client called IMVU. He knows my GF and was wondering if i knew her.. Told him i was going out with her and he said heh funny so am i and she says you are just her friend. So i talked to him for a little while and found out he was also going out with her. So we talked back and forth and then i got her into the convo. She confirmed that she "liked him" and said she "liked me." She also said she's got a girlfriend(which is a plus for me) and then said that she did not know how it ended up this way. Basically she was saying damn how did i get caught. So i told her that he convoed me and then we talked.

    He eventually said i wanna know the truth who do u want to be with? She said i dont know after what is going on, then said could i have you both. After a couple minutes of silence i said well i would not feel right with that and im sure neither would he. SO we talked and eventually said we are all gonna think things through before she makes her decision.

     What i want to know and need help on deciding is if i should try and fight for the person i love, or if i should just say lets just be friends and leave it at that. I love her and plan on spending half of my summer with her down in Australia and trying to bring her back. But now i dont know if that is a good idea as she may not want it to be that way. I need some help people share your thoughts Please!

Turn and walk away. Just stay friends because with situations like these, it can (and most likely will) turn ugly. Stay her friend, and leave it at that.

[Acey]

1) Turn and walk away but you can still be friends.

2) You're bothy too young to date seriously anyways. Date around and learn what you reall want. Getting too close to any one person at this point is either an unwanted pregancy, future divorce, or both. Play the field in a gentleman-y way.

[xPreatorianx]

thanks for the words guys yea the whole time i kept my cool. Besides saying i was confused as all hell. And get this me and the guy are friends he added me as a buddy and we are talking right now as a matter of fact. So atleast i did not make another enemy in the world. I still might go to Australia but it will probably be for sight seeing. I also think you guys are right i should just walk away because this could turn even uglier then it already has.

[[Asian-Jesus]]

thanks for the words guys yea the whole time i kept my cool. Besides saying i was confused as all hell. And get this me and the guy are friends he added me as a buddy and we are talking right now as a matter of fact. So atleast i did not make another enemy in the world. I still might go to Australia but it will probably be for sight seeing. I also think you guys are right i should just walk away because this could turn even uglier then it already has.

Well, at least you made a new friend. In that case, you win the game. (but only slightly, only slightly) 

[xPreatorianx]

yea i just still feel bad about the whole thing. Me and him kinda blind sided her. she did not think we would think about talking to each other. I guess she thought we would be to jealous and just say whatever. But we talked to each other before talking to her. She basically said damn i got caught. So not only was I blind sided with what happened but so was she.

EDIT: i still cant think completely straight i trusted her but i thought something was going on between them to when the products she made for that 3D chat client had couple poses with her and him. So i knew something was up but i gave her the benefit of the doubt. Plus she said "he was just a friend" when i asked her about a week ago. Then today when we all talked she finally came up and said it that she was with us both.

[Nutty-Da-Kid]

blood if it were me i would say f**k her if she want to be wit other dudes and poop its obvious that she was never the right one for u the one for u is da one that does not go out and try to play u and the other guy i would be pissed i would of said f**k it but than again thats just me.

[Theendgamelv3]

Dude, she is seeing 2 PEOPLE outside of you. It doesn't matter if she has a gf, it is about love. Just because she is also seeing a girl, ISN'T a plus for you. For all we know she might leave you or him just to be with her. If that girl was a guy, I think you would be singing a different tune. I couldn't stay with a girl if she was seeing people behind my back. She played both you and him, she thought you two would never would talk to eachother. She lied to you, him and possibly the girl. What makes you think you should stay with a girl who is lying to you and others? All I see now is drama in the near future if you try to work things out with her.

[eternal]

indeed indeed
i once went out with this junior girl (only for like 1 week)
god damn she was a hoe. she has a baby daddy and like 2 bfs no joke
it just pissed me off

[xPreatorianx]

Dude, she is seeing 2 PEOPLE outside of you. It doesn't matter if she has a gf, it is about love. Just because she is also seeing a girl, ISN'T a plus for you. For all we know she might leave you or him just to be with her. If that girl was a guy, I think you would be singing a different tune. I couldn't stay with a girl if she was seeing people behind my back. She played both you and him, she thought you two would never would talk to eachother. She lied to you, him and possibly the girl. What makes you think you should stay with a girl who is lying to you and others? All I see now is drama in the near future if you try to work things out with her.

Yea like i said earlier im just gonna cut my loses. I dont wanna make even uglier then it already is.  Also she did of lieing come to find out atleast from what the guy told me. But me and him are cool. Me and her will stay friends and nothing more. Now its time to try and date women in my own area. My guard is def up higher then it was before. Even tho it was up pretty high in the first place due to another relationship. Anyways thats another story for another time. Again all thanks for your words.


EDIT: here is what she had to say to what happened yesterday :

I'm really sorry to have messed you about, but being with you has made me realize that I am a lesbian and I can't string you along anymore You've done nothing wrong. It's me...I've just lost interest. Take care of yourself

EDIT2: From what she is saying in that message i just pasted me and that guy turned her lesbian??? I know that i have never said anything to warrent that in a relationship. ooh well she even blocked me on her site, and IMVU. All i was gonna say was could we atleast be friends? She put that message on my IMVU site with a sticker for me saying " sorry I'm not perfect" Heh ooh well im already over it but discuss what you guys think.

[Nutty-Da-Kid]

Dude, she is seeing 2 PEOPLE outside of you. It doesn't matter if she has a gf, it is about love. Just because she is also seeing a girl, ISN'T a plus for you. For all we know she might leave you or him just to be with her. If that girl was a guy, I think you would be singing a different tune. I couldn't stay with a girl if she was seeing people behind my back. She played both you and him, she thought you two would never would talk to eachother. She lied to you, him and possibly the girl. What makes you think you should stay with a girl who is lying to you and others? All I see now is drama in the near future if you try to work things out with her.

Yea like i said earlier im just gonna cut my loses. I dont wanna make even uglier then it already is.  Also she did of lieing come to find out atleast from what the guy told me. But me and him are cool. Me and her will stay friends and nothing more. Now its time to try and date women in my own area. My guard is def up higher then it was before. Even tho it was up pretty high in the first place due to another relationship. Anyways thats another story for another time. Again all thanks for your words.


EDIT: here is what she had to say to what happened yesterday :

I'm really sorry to have messed you about, but being with you has made me realize that I am a lesbian and I can't string you along anymore You've done nothing wrong. It's me...I've just lost interest. Take care of yourself

EDIT2: From what she is saying in that message i just pasted me and that guy turned her lesbian??? I know that i have never said anything to warrent that in a relationship. ooh well she even blocked me on her site, and IMVU. All i was gonna say was could we atleast be friends? She put that message on my IMVU site with a sticker for me saying " sorry I'm not perfect" Heh ooh well im already over it but discuss what you guys think.

in the words of Dave Chappelle wat a bigiddy B!tch

[A!]

sad...

[Savage Henry]

If he is the macho type guy, she is shallow. If thats the case, forget her.

  @ Tupac: Dont be an butt just to be an butt.

[A!]

If he is the macho type guy, she is shallow. If thats the case, forget her.

  @ Tupac: Dont be an @$$ just to be an @$$.

wtf you talkin about putty that girl is sad...

[eg6gsr]

haha sounds like a soap......I say leave the dating realationship and just be a friends cause girls like that dont change they just like to play to much

[xPreatorianx]

i cant even be her friend LMFAO she completely blocked all contact with me. Anyways mods you can close this topic if you want i said my peace got what i needed. Also im completely over it, its in the past now so i could care less. Thanks all for the kind words and telling me what i should do.